The Domestic Violence Disclosure Scheme or Clare’s Law is a national scheme that has been set up to give members of the public a formal mechanism to make enquiries to Police about an individual who they are in a relationship with, or who is in a relationship with someone they know, and there is a concern that the individual may be abusive towards their partner. Download the factsheet here or read the Home Office guidance.
This could be pushing, grabbing, hitting, restraining, strangling, burning, pinching, slapping, kicking, or by weapons or other objects being used to hurt us.
This could be using language to shame us or put us down, making us feel scared, intimidating us, threatening us, harassing us, stalking and checking up on us.
This could be preventing us from having a job and making our own money, having sole charge of the bank account, bank cards and money, saying how we have to spend their money, making us give an account for every penny or stealing money.
This could be sexual touching on any part of the body I do not want, being forced, pressured or manipulated into sexual acts, being used by people other than your partner for sexual acts, having nude or sexual images and videos being shared without your permission, feeling shamed about your sexual performance or having unwanted sexual comments made about you.
This is the attempt to control us by using techniques and tactics to affect how we think and feel. This could be giving us rules and checking up on us, isolating us, monopolising our attention, exhausting us, humiliating us, making us do trivial things they demand.